Across the world, more men are struggling with loneliness than ever before. Clinicians and researchers have begun calling this the male loneliness epidemic – a quiet crisis marked by shrinking social circles, fewer close friendships and growing emotional isolation.
Singapore is seeing similar patterns. Many young and older men share that they feel disconnected, misunderstood or simply tired. Loneliness does not always look dramatic. For many, it shows up as irritability, emotional numbness, a sense of drifting or feeling alone even when surrounded by others.
These experiences are real, valid and deserving of compassion.
Are More Young Men in Singapore Feeling Lonely?
Emerging data suggests that younger adults may be particularly vulnerable.
A 2023 poll by the Institute of Policy Studies found that those aged 21 to 34 reported higher levels of social isolation and lower companionship compared to older adults. Half of those surveyed were men.
Singapore’s suicide statistics also paint a troubling picture. In 2023, men accounted for nearly 69% of all suicide deaths. Suicide is influenced by many factors, but this disparity highlights the emotional strain many men carry quietly.
In therapy, many male clients share that their loneliness is not due to a lack of people in their lives, but difficulty forming relationships where they feel emotionally seen, supported or understood.
Why Does Loneliness Affect Men Differently?
1. Emotional expectations
Many boys grow up hearing messages such as “be strong”, “don’t depend on others” or “handle it yourself”.
Over time, this makes it harder for men to open up about doubt, fear or hurt. Connections may become functional but emotionally thin, leaving men feeling alone even within relationships.
2. Achievement pressure
Men are often valued for what they can provide financially or practically. Friendships may revolve around activities rather than emotional sharing. When life becomes stressful, there may be little space for vulnerability, which deepens isolation.
3. Life-stage challenges
Younger men may invest heavily in career growth at the expense of friendships.
Older men may experience reduced social contact due to retirement, declining health or mobility limitations.
Loneliness does not discriminate by age. It simply shows up differently across life stages.
Is Loneliness Stronger in Younger or Older Men?
Both groups are at risk.
Research from Duke-NUS highlights how common loneliness is among older adults:
32% of adults aged 60 to 69 felt lonely
40% of adults aged 80 and above felt lonely
Surprisingly, most were not living alone. This reminds us that loneliness is not about physical proximity, but whether we feel emotionally connected, understood and valued.
How We Support Men Struggling With Loneliness
Many men feel relief when they learn that loneliness is not a sign of weakness but a human experience. In therapy, we explore these feelings gently and at a pace that feels safe.
1. Normalising loneliness
Loneliness is a signal that connection matters deeply to us, not a reflection of failure.
2. Understanding what connection means to you
We explore questions such as:
When do you feel most disconnected?
When do you feel most at ease with others?
These insights help clarify what kinds of relationships feel meaningful and restorative.
3. Rebuilding connection through shared experiences
Connections often grow through:
Shared values or interests
A similar sense of humour
Consistent, reciprocal interaction
Moments where you feel seen and understood
Relationships grow quietly through small, repeated acts of care.
4. Creating opportunities for closeness
We support men in taking practical steps such as:
Joining hobby, sport or interest groups
Reconnecting with people they care about
Strengthening current relationships through time, presence and openness
Every effort toward connection, no matter how small, is a courageous step.
You Are Not Alone, Support Is Available
Loneliness can feel heavy, especially for men who feel the pressure to cope silently. But support is available, and reaching out is an act of strength.
Whether you are experiencing emotional disconnection, relationship strain or simply drifting through life, our clinicians are here to help you make sense of these feelings. Together, we can work towards relationships that feel safe, meaningful and fulfilling.
If you or someone you care about may be struggling, contact us. Healing often begins with one honest conversation.