ANNABELLE PSYCHOLOGY
周泳伶临床心理诊所
clinical psychologists
It’s one of the most disorienting moments we can face in life: being laid off.
Job loss can shake your sense of safety and identity. This guide offers gentle, practical steps to manage the emotional fallout, regain structure, and move forward.
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When you keep showing up, but feel numb inside
High-functioning depression can look like “coping” on the outside while feeling flat, exhausted, or disconnected within. If you are getting through the day but struggling to feel joy or rest, you are not alone. Here are common signs and gentle, practical steps that can help.
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Understanding self-harm: Why it happens, why it’s hard to stop, how to support someone or yourself
Self-harm is often a way of coping with overwhelming emotions, numbness, or distress, rather than an intent to die. With understanding and the right support, it is possible to break the cycle and build safer ways to cope.
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Pregnancy is often described as a glowing and joyful time. But for some women, the reality looks and feels very different.
Pregnancy isn’t always glowing or joyful. For some women, severe nausea and exhaustion take over. Hyperemesis Gravidarum (HG) is more than morning sickness — it’s a serious condition that can affect both body and mind.
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Listening without judgment and validating their feelings are important.
We may be familiar with the ‘danger signs’ that someone may show when they are thinking of self-harm, such as talk of life being meaningless or painful, or overly generous acts such as giving treasured items away. And it can feel overwhelming when we do come across such signs. “How can I help?”, “Is there something I can do?”, “I don’t want to lose them” are thoughts that may cross our mind. And we’re here to help! While seemingly trivial, reaching out to them via text can be helpful. Here are 10 things to text or not to text someone who may be suicidal:
Assure them of your support. “I am here. Would you like to share with me?”
Thank them for making the effort to share with you. “Thank you for telling me.”
Acknowledge their feelings first, solutions can wait. “I hear your pain.”
It is okay to ask, “Are you planning to harm or kill yourself?” It won’t increase the likelihood of self-harm and we can better take precautionary actions if they do have plans.
If they do have thoughts of suicide, encourage them to seek immediate help. “I am concerned for you. Would you like to speak to a mental health expert?”
If they do not, still encourage them to seek professional help, “I think it may be helpful. I can help look up some and go with you if you would like.”
Remind them that you are thinking of them from time to time. “Hey, I saw this and it reminded me of you!”
DON’T say “I know how you feel”. Even if it may seem similar, the situation and the emotions that they are going through may be different from what you have experienced or envisioned.
DON’T say “Others have it worse than you do.” It’s not a competition of who has it worse, and doing so may make the individual feel like they matter even less.
DON’T say “Get over it.” They would like for their hurt to be gone too, and saying such things may make them feel like their emotions don’t matter.
A loved one contemplating or engaging in self-harm is a painful experience for both the individual and their loved ones. And it is natural that we may yearn to quickly rush in and to save them, to present them with solutions or our assessments of their situations. However, remember that this is about their pain. As such, simply being there and providing them a listening ear to their problems goes a long way, and you are already helping.
You may have heard worrying things about Kpods, so why would someone take such a risk?
Understand Kpods, ketamine and etomidate laced vapes: risks, why people use them, warning signs and supportive ways to help, and when to seek help in Singapore.
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There’s a kind of tired that sleep doesn’t fix.
If you’re part of the sandwich generation, you know this well.
The sandwich generation carries a quiet, relentless weight — raising children while caring for ageing parents, juggling responsibilities that never seem to end. This article explores the unspoken guilt, fatigue and loneliness many experience, along with gentle, practical ways to reclaim rest, share the load and seek support. You are not failing; you are human, doing your best in circumstances few truly understand.
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I haven’t showered in days. I know I need to but I can’t get up. Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.
Showering can feel like a daunting task. Mentally, we’re drained, so it’s not a priority. But we need to clean ourselves for the sake of our physical health. Not only is showering a part of basic hygiene, but it can also improve our self-esteem and even help us relax. The next time a shower is too much for you, try any of these 5 hacks.
1. Take a seat
We don’t have to be standing in the shower! Try using a stool or shower seat. Make sure everything – soaps and showerhead - is within arm’s reach.
2. Set the mood
Taking a shower may not be something we look forward to. Try pairing it with something fun, like watching your favourite drama. Lying in bed with your phone? Turn on your shower playlist first, and sing along while you soap up.
3. Take baby steps
Undressing can feel like the biggest first step of the shower. If you’re not ready, keep your clothes on. Start by washing your face, or washing your hair over the sink. Smaller steps are still steps in the right direction!
4. Take the shortcut sometimes
When getting into the shower is too impossible, go for alternatives. Opt for dry shampoo and wet wipes, and use a leave-in conditioner.
5. Set a goal
Set a goal for the week. Whether it is taking one full shower or just washing your hair, make it a point to work towards that goal. Reward yourself with a treat after you have accomplished it. You can even get a friend to keep you accountable.
Taking a shower is a form of self-care. Let’s remember to celebrate the little steps we took – whether it was washing our faces, turning on the shower head, or taking a whole shower!
Music can be comforting, especially when they resonate with our pain and suffering. Countless singers and songwriters have written songs reminding us that we are not alone, even in the darkness.
We couldn’t possibly give you 10 songs about feeling alone or wanting to not be alive, and not give you another 10 songs with messages about fighting these feelings. From a variety of genres, we hope you enjoy our curated list!
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“I would rather walk with a friend in the dark than walk alone in the light.”
- Helen Keller
When someone you care about is struggling with their mental health, the “right” words can feel hard to find. You may worry about saying the wrong thing, or feel pressure to fix what they’re going through. This guide shares 10 simple, supportive phrases you can use to show up with care, validate their experience, and offer steady encouragement, without judgement or forcing solutions.
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